I’ve noticed that weddings become THE conversation when you’re planning one. It's an easy subject to talk about. You want to talk about it, and people usually want to hear about it. But do I really have to talk about my wedding every five seconds?
I'm naturally a private person. I don’t talk about myself a lot, and for the most part I keep details about my life to myself. It’s one of my more obvious traits, and I consider my privacy to play a pivotal part of the person I am.
However, weddings are a topsy turvy world, and some expected me to change into a wedding talking machine. I was told (through the grape vine) recently that I don’t talk enough about my wedding. It’s not shocking to me that people expected me to change because of the wedding, but it is surprising that they expect a different person. I believed most people were fully aware that I don’t freely give up information about myself. For the most part I believed everyone knows this about me, but I guess they expected my wedding to change that.
Should I change for the wedding and the people around me? I believe that a wedding should be about the two people. The couple shouldn’t be about the wedding, but my quite nature might be hurting others. One of my friends even thinks she is not invited because I‘m not divulging every little detail about my wedding to her.
Currently I only bring up the wedding subject with Mr. Camrah, my mom, and aunt. I leave wedding talk up to the other person in most other cases. If they would like to know about my wedding, they can ask. I have found some people ask others don’t. I assumed that if they didn’t ask, they didn’t want to know. So, why would I bring it up with them?
But Mr. Camrah brought up something I hadn’t thought about. Others might feel awkward asking about the wedding. Friends may feel that by having to ask about the wedding they are appearing to try to get themselves invited. This opens a whole new can of worms. It also helped me to see why I heard about this through a third party and where my friends may be coming from.
It's really comes down either I change or I stay the same with the knowledge that I may be unintentionally offending others. I know I will continue keeping my wedding private, yet I’m sorry for those who I’ve offended. I just don’t think I should change for a day that is supposed to be celebrating who I am.
Has anyone else been told that they don’t talk about their wedding enough? Or that they talk about it too much? Has your wedding changed you in any way?
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